Saving to My Partner

Do not worry about anything, "I do it all for you." I've seen people who are able to do anything for their partners, while the other part of the couple is comfortable watching TV, spending time with friends or, very carefree living for their family responsibilities.

The rescue effect in relationships are due to emotional dependency emotional, which clearly shows the links to codependents. Of course, do it for love, but love the child dependency encryption. The message is: "You can not grow, I'll take care of everything because basically do not trust you"

For these people, whether to rescue their partners, each and every one of your problems, it becomes their sense of existence. They need to have someone who cares, the problem is that everyone's healing, and especially the couple, but their inner lives are made a mess. They fail to see what happens and how they feel, however, know how others feel, and also give them good advice, that they are unable to implement in their personal lives.

Usually linked to couples who have financial problems, family chaos, destructive relationships with other people, an addiction like alcohol, binge eating, and to give them money as long as your partner do not worry about anything.

Two that want one that cares and takes just seems to be the motto of these rescuers of love, or, as Susan Forward, of those, or those who love too much.

Carers and rescuers spend their days solving problems, just enjoy life, are always full of slopes and in the end, have only themselves, but from a misunderstanding and resentment filled unconscious.

Codependent people, carers and rescuers help their partners are always in trouble, but what they are going to care or rescue. Although they complain, their behavior, avoid living the consequences of their actions, as noted, the specialist, Scott Egleston.

In the rescue of the couple there is also the avoidance of conflicts and situations that may cause anxiety or tension, even when relationships, which by their nature, they live in trouble. Among the observable behaviors that occur most frequently in this type of bonding is:

- To lose one's identity: do what you want and when you want, but inside I have no desire to do so. I dare not say no. You and I are one. A kind of love amalgamated.

- Avoid, as far as possible financial responsibilities, parenting, family and even work.

- Nothing is less so to help your beloved partner. Any sacrifice is worth money, labor, time, investment of love. As to why we are so supportive.

These are some of the attitudes of the couple when we are to rescue the relationship. Caring for others is an act of love, but caring for other forgotten me, is a very large distortion on the relations of married life.

While education tells us that we must think of others, it is true, we need to think about others because we live in a society and we all need.

But to love more to another to forget me, is a condition that leads to painful relationships live, frustrating, irresponsible, and at the bottom, filled with emptiness and lovelessness. It's a very twisted view on a life of two.

You need to take charge of you, and then to take charge of others. There is no alternative.

I'd love to write and to know your opinion. But you're in love and suffer, surely, require rethinking your personal life and the way you engage your relationships.

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